Tag Archives: Postpartum

The ‘Lose Weight By Breastfeeding’ Message Is Hurting Postpartum Moms

Anna Shvets/Pexels Lose weight while breastfeeding? Breastfeed to lose weight? For years, women have been indoctrinated to believe the most effective way to lose weight postpartum is to breastfeed. Or that the best reason to breastfeed is for weight loss. It’s high time to call out this crap for what it is: an instrument of diet culture to manipulate women during one of the most vulnerable times of their lives — physically, mentally, and emotionally. The truth is, this message is destructive and harming new mothers in […]

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5 Things I Learned While My Baby Was In The NICU

Courtesy of Dr. Pooja Sharma Heartbreaking doesn’t even begin to describe that sinking feeling you get when you see your baby behind a door, in a glass box, in nothing but a diaper, with tubes shoved up her nose, a name tag on her wrist (so she doesn’t get mixed up with other babies — my biggest fear at the time) just lying there. Maybe she’s thinking “Where’s my mother?” “What are these scary beeping sounds?” “Why am I not in my warm cosy home anymore?” My […]

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I Needed Someone To Take Care Of Me Like I Took Care Of My Baby

Scary Mommy and Big Joe/Getty This is what I wish I knew before I had my daughter, Addison. This is what I wish I could vocalize to Michael throughout her entire newborn stage. We might have had a baby together, but darling, your child, your priority right now, is not that sweet precious bundle of joy. It is me. It is your wife. It is the woman who is up at all hours breastfeeding and changing and burping and soothing our absolutely perfect, beautiful, screaming, crying, new […]

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Beyond Depression – Navigating Postpartum PTSD

Postpartum PTSD affects about 9% of women following childbirth. Here’s what it looked like for one new mom, and how she ended up getting help. There was a white pick up truck driving close behind me. I had just left the Target parking lot with my 4-month-old son, and I was pretty sure this truck had followed us out. I turned right, the truck turned right. I started to panic, my breathing getting faster, my heart pounding. I turned left, the truck turned left. My mind started […]

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Postpartum Psychosis Made Me Think Of Harming My Baby

Artem_Furman / iStock What do you think when you see a vacant-looking mom of a new baby and a toddler? That she is probably tired? Exhausted? That’s what most people would think. But would you ever think this was the look of a mom who was about to experience postpartum psychosis? Maybe you’ve never heard of it. I certainly hadn’t. So what is postpartum psychosis? And why would it happen to someone who had everything she had ever wanted? My story begins in 2011. I had packed up […]

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7 Ways to Survive Life With a Newborn and No Family Support

It was never my plan to have a baby while living hundreds of miles from my family, therefore completely destroying any possibility of having nearby family support.  Before we had a child, I imagined that every other aspect of our lives would have miraculously fallen into place. My husband and I would return home, buy a cheap yet beautiful country house, and acquire fluffy chickens and rabbits to wander picturesquely in the grounds. Best of all, we’d have free childcare at the perfect distance (not too far and […]

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My C-Section Stole My Ability To Trust Myself

Randy Faris/Getty The faded blue chair in my therapist’s office is not comfortable. And it’s not just because talking about my intense postpartum anxiety is uncomfortable. The actual chair kind of sucks — it swallows me every time I sit down. I sink so far into the seat that it’s hard to get back up again when we’re done. And right now, I want to be done. We’re talking about the vivid images that assault my mind anytime I take my two toddlers out by myself. That […]

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What I Learned From My Postpartum Meltdown

Courtesy of Nina Turcsanyi This photo was taken on a Tuesday morning, ten minutes after my husband left me at home with our new baby to go back to work (taken after I dried my tears and wiped my snot-covered face). I didn’t prepare myself for that seemingly insignificant moment— always focusing on my impending return to work. But now here I was in a quiet house just me, my baby, and the revelation that I had zero idea what I was doing. The few days he was […]

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Social Isolation Exacerbates PPD For Some Moms

Scary Mommy and Tatyana Antusenok/Getty I’ve been in my home with my new baby for two months due to the coronavirus pandemic. The last time I left the house for anything other than groceries was for my daughter’s two-month wellness check. I had all three kids in tow, and when we got home, my husband called to let me know that he was becoming concerned about COVID-19. He thought it would be best if we started our own voluntary isolation, and I agreed. Within days, the whole […]

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Pressuring New Moms To Breastfeed Is A Dangerous Practice––From A Certified Lactation Counselor

Fanny Renaud/Unsplash I’m a lactation counselor. And while some people might have a heart-touching story about what landed them in the career they’re in, my story is different. I decided to help moms breastfeed after my horrendous experience trying to breastfeed my own daughter. And the cornerstone of the advice I give moms is support: no matter what their decisions are about feeding their baby. I’d done all the research about childbirth that I could. I attended classes, devoured books, and talked to professionals. I knew exactly […]

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