Tag Archives: Body Image

The ‘Lose Weight By Breastfeeding’ Message Is Hurting Postpartum Moms

Anna Shvets/Pexels Lose weight while breastfeeding? Breastfeed to lose weight? For years, women have been indoctrinated to believe the most effective way to lose weight postpartum is to breastfeed. Or that the best reason to breastfeed is for weight loss. It’s high time to call out this crap for what it is: an instrument of diet culture to manipulate women during one of the most vulnerable times of their lives — physically, mentally, and emotionally. The truth is, this message is destructive and harming new mothers in […]

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My Partner Made Me Feel Ashamed Of My Pregnant Body

Scary Mommy and Burak Karademir/Getty Trigger warning: verbal abuse and domestic violence The hardest part of my pregnancy was my body changing. Domestic violence hit me the hardest during this time. This is why I get emotional when I legit see pregnant mommas living their best lives with their miraculous growing bods — oh, I see you. Being with someone that tugged on my thighs and looked at other women from top to bottom that were fit, built, and gearing up for spring break and me, at […]

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Hey, Be Kind to Yourself (and Your Body) Right Now

Any time the topic of weight comes up, our spidey sense can begin to tingle. Where is this conversation going? Is someone about to be shamed for weighing too much? Too little? Ordering a burger and fries when they “should” have gotten a salad? When we’re so prepped to hear negativity and judgment attached to the weight conversation, it’s no wonder that our inner dialogue on the topic can become downright nasty. If weight is something that you’ve struggled with at the best of times, the fact […]

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I Fired My OB-GYN When She Weight-Shamed Me

Scary Mommy and Alistair Berg/Getty My first pregnancy came as a bit of a surprise. My husband and I had been trying to get pregnant for 18 months, but we’d just been given the depressing news that my husband’s sperm count was very low and our only hope would be IVF. So when I got a positive pregnancy test later that same month (yes, really!), we were woefully unprepared for what came next. I had been too superstitious about the pregnancy to pick a healthcare provider for […]

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I Love My ‘Mom Pouch’ and Stretch Marks More Than I Ever Thought I Would

Courtesy of Lindsay Wolf It’s almost bedtime, and the kids are going bonkers. My nine-month-old has just learned how to walk, so he’s traipsing around the room like he owns the joint (and he kinda does). My 3-year-old is donning a cape and nothing else, as she runs around in circles making airplane sounds and pretending to fly. Meanwhile, I’m trying to stay inconspicuous as I lay down in a quiet corner, so I can keep zoning out on my phone in peace. Courtesy of Lindsay Wolf […]

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The ‘Before And After’ That You Never See

Courtesy of Lindsay Wolf Seventy-five pounds.  That’s what it took to build and grow and care for my two kids.  That’s also the amount of weight I didn’t know I needed to gain in order to finally heal. It took seventy-five pounds to realize that I didn’t have to ride the excruciating hamster wheel of diet culture anymore. My pregnancy weight gain turned my whole world upside down, and I’m still thanking my lucky stars it did.  In fact, I have no plans to lose a single […]

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I Had A Healthy — And Amazing — Pregnancy In An ‘Obese’ Body

Lindsay Wolf/Instagram During my first pregnancy, I steadily gained 50 pounds. This was a major deal for someone as obsessed with thinness as me. I had spent the better part of two decades struggling with disordered eating, using exercise as punishment, and seeing my body as vastly larger than it ever actually was. I devoted four of my teenage years to a loyal weight loss pill addiction, while binging and purging felt like this cool dieting fad I just had to try again and again. Despite my […]

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Five Beautiful Truths about Postpartum Bodies

photo courtesy of @alliesdasilva Oh boy, this is the thing that is hard to ask, but am I vain because I am not always in love with my postpartum body? I go through waves and cycles of thinking, wait I have a life giving, life sustaining, powerful, beautiful body! I think this in the shower, that my new wider (permanently wider) hips are like Beyoncé, and that my curves are sexy. Then I whip back the shower curtain only to be confronted with my full length mirror and I think, oh […]

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I Am Plus-Size, Pregnant, And Healthy — Thank You Very Much

Katie Cloyd/Instagram I’m pregnant with my third and last baby. This pregnancy, like my other two, has been completely uneventful so far. I mean, yes, I’m uncomfortable and tired and nauseous. I’m older than I was the first time. I have hemorrhoids, my boobs hurt, and I’m cranky. The usual stuff. But overall, pregnancy pretty much agrees with me. I am so grateful that I have never experienced any of the scary things that can happen in a pregnancy. I’ve had a couple early miscarriages, and it […]

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Roadblocks and Support for Weight Management

You may remember me asking you to fill out a survey from the post Obesity: Shame & Blame Needs to Change in an effort to open up the discussion around obesity and weight management. Turns out that over half of the respondents (more than 1,100 total!) have been concerned about being overweight and the health concerns around it for more than a decade. The good news is more than 60% have spoken to their healthcare provider about weight management, and of these respondents, 34% felt supported in […]

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