Tag Archives: Labor & Delivery

It Took Years To ‘Get Over’ My Traumatic Childbirth Experiences

Courtesy of Taylor Garvin Now, to be clear, no one was asking me to “get over” my C-sections, but it was definitely something I had to work through. Leading up to the birth of my daughter, I didn’t really prepare in any way at all, except reading one book, where I intentionally skipped the part on C-sections. I honestly thought it was something reserved for extremely special circumstances/complications. And if it was the case, for myself, I probably would have been aware of it, prior to. I wanted to […]

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Ditch Your Birth Plan (Yes, Really)

Courtesy of Jessica Berta “Get a shoelace to clamp the umbilical cord,” my landlord relayed the 911 dispatcher’s instructions as I lay on the kitchen floor, a pool of blood beneath me. My husband pulled a lace from his Vans sneaker and said, “Does it matter if it’s filthy?” Our newborn was on my belly covered in a towel. Here’s what I was not thinking in that moment: “Didn’t our birth plan note delayed clamping of the umbilical cord for at least three minutes?” No, I was […]

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I Suffered A Secondary Postpartum Hemorrhage After My C-Section

Courtesy of Jess Waldron Ten days after I gave birth to my daughter, I suffered from what is called a secondary postpartum hemorrhage. Between my emergency c-section and the hemorrhage, I lost half of my blood volume. It took me six weeks to stop bleeding, three months to let go of the blood anxiety, and eight months to feel like I was fully functioning again. Fourteen months later, I still have an imprint on my back from the epidural that I was on for two days. This […]

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I Am Headed Into My Third C-Section With Zero Shame

Sharon McCutcheon/Unsplash Believe it or not, I am really looking forward to my third and final C-section. I know massive abdominal surgery isn’t usually the kind of thing that someone anticipates like a weekend away, but I kind of am. Before you think I’ve lost all sense of reason, hear me out. I have had two other C-sections, so I am totally aware of the process. I know there is going to be anxiety, pain, and hard recovery days. But my C-section is unavoidable. I had an […]

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New Moms Might Not Want Visitors, And That’s Okay

Towfiqu Photography/Getty As I inched closer and closer to the finish line of each one of my pregnancies, a not-so-subtle pattern began to form. Those who hadn’t checked up on me during the duration of my pregnancies would inform me they couldn’t wait to “get their hands on my baby” once I delivered… as if once my babies’ birth was announced, that would be enough to warrant an open invitation from my entire neighborhood. Of course, I was grateful my babies were already seemingly loved, but the […]

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There Are Many Benefits To Delayed Cord Clamping

Kwangmoozaa/Getty I am a labor and delivery nurse who believes in the natural side of birth and doing it the best way for you and your baby. The umbilical cord plays an important role in your newborn’s life. Its importance starts in the womb and continues throughout the first few valuable minutes after birth. Delayed cord clamping is another crucial part of birth, which continues my “get this off my chest” series. The Umbilical Cord The umbilical cord connects your baby to the placenta. It contains three […]

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Hey Mama, You Can Feel Proud Of Your C-Section Too

Courtesy of Caila Smith; Photo by No Other Love Photography Over the years, I’ve felt a deep-rooted longing for the births I never had. I’m a three-time C-section mama whose first and last babies were born breech and pulled from a six-inch cut from my womb. I never had the “you can do it!” feeling as I was pushing, because there was no pushing. I’ve never been in labor or felt “real” contractions. My water has never broken on its own. And I’ve never had a vaginal […]

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My Second C-Section Helped Me Finally Heal From Birth Trauma

I force one eye open, and I feel the fog starting to clear. The clock says it’s 7 a.m. It was 6:28 when my baby was born. The NICU team rushed him out of the room before I ever laid eyes on him. Is he okay? What happened to the last few minutes? These are the questions I want to ask, but trying to speak is a Herculean task. I can move my hands and head, but they feel impossibly heavy. I’m flat on my back, and […]

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I Had HELLP Syndrome And It Nearly Destroyed My Birth Experience

My birth story is not beautiful, warm and fuzzy, or humorous in any way. But I choose to share my story to raise awareness about a rare but oh-so-serious pregnancy complication, and to remind you to not take yourself so seriously. My pregnancy was a dream. I blissfully waddled through eight months of long naps on Saturdays, a husband who let me rest to my heart’s content (although he did refuse to rub my feet once, which he’ll never live down), tons of ice cream, uneventful doctor […]

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Water Births Are Amazing, But It’s Important To Know The Risks

I have never given birth, but I watched my partner labor and deliver three babies. The human body is an incredible thing, and so is the pregnant person’s spirit and mental toughness. Because holy shit, childbirth really is next level. My first child was positioned sunny side up, or posterior, so my partner had nearly 24 hours of excruciating back labor as my daughter’s head pressed against her back and tailbone instead of her stomach. To relieve some of the pressure and pain, the obstetrician recommended laboring […]

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