Tag Archives: Infertility

The COVID-19 Pandemic Has Halted Access To Infertility Treatments

Scary Mommy and Visual Generation/Getty If you asked me right now if I wanted more kids, I would have a good laugh — and then probably start to cry, because I am on the brink of losing my damn mind being cooped up in the house with the three kids I already have. But if you had asked me this question 12 years ago, my heart would have burst with longing. My ex-partner and I were a two-uterus couple, unable to conceive a baby without fertility help. […]

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This Is Not A Pregnancy Announcement (Unfortunately)

Courtesy of Kel Pitts This is the absolute hardest thing I have ever written. This is the story about losing a baby I so badly wanted. This is my miscarriage story. Almost immediately after having our son, we were being asked when we planned to have a second baby (side note, don’t ask people that). It wasn’t until he was two that we felt ready to start trying to grow our family with another sweet babe. Prior to making this decision, we had talked about it for […]

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When It Comes To Infertility And Insurance, The Odds Are Against LGBTQ Couples

Courtesy of Jessica Reyman To date, my wife and I have been on our fertility journey for a little over one month. In that month, I have been poked and prodded. My blood has been drawn, and dye has been injected into my uterus. I have been x-rayed, and received a booster of a surprisingly painful vaccine because my immunity to a certain disease had waned over time. I have spent hundreds on ovulation predictor kits to track my cycle for the past six months, and have […]

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Infertility Wreaked Havoc On My Sex Life

nd3000/Getty I write a lot about how infertility affects the woman who is physically going through the fertility treatments herself, because, duh. But I’ve never written about some of the way it can affect the relationship with her partner. Infertility can wreak havoc on a relationship. It definitely tests the “in good times and in bad” deal of marriage, to say the least. My husband and I definitely navigated through some rough terrain. Luckily, with communication and a ton of patience, we came out of it closer […]

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I Donated My Eggs, So My Friend Could Have A Baby

Scary Mommy and kate_sept2004/Getty Well, it’s been five months since I went through IVF and donated my eggs to a friend. After talking to friends and acquaintances about this whole process, I realized just how many people don’t understand this whole process. What happens to the eggs? When are the embryos ready for transfer? How long does it take to find out the recipient is pregnant? And how do you move forward with your life after donating eggs? My situation is a little different from some in […]

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8 Things That Do — And Don’t — Improve His Sperm Quality, According To Experts

PeopleImages/ Getty Whether you’re actively trying to get pregnant or are just looking ahead to the future, you may want to start thinking about the quality of what you’re putting into your body. In this case, we’re not talking about eating organic foods or switching to clean beauty products — we’re talking about some good old-fashioned sperm. If your plans to eventually get pregnant involve having one (or more) of your eggs fertilized by a male partner (possibly the least-sexy way to talk about sex ever), you […]

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Infertility Isn’t Just About Getting Pregnant — It’s Also About Staying Pregnant

Courtesy of Khadijah Lardas Another month, another negative pregnancy test. Another month my heart felt distressed. Infertility had the audacity to strike again and it was ruthless, disrespectful and bold. It gave hope, only to cackle with laughter and then rip it to shreds. Courtesy of Khadijah Lardas It forced me to question myself over and over again. What am I doing wrong? I am young, healthy and doing everything “right.” I have an animated and active four-year-old daughter, so shouldn’t it be easy? No. Courtesy of […]

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We’re Struggling With Infertility And Please Don’t Tell Me ‘It’ll Work Out’

PhotoAlto/Frederic Cirou/Getty Infertility: it’s embarrassing, shameful, difficult, heart-breaking, and it tends to fill us with guilt. Above all infertility is misunderstood. Did you know that one in eight couples will have trouble getting pregnant? Or that there are plenty of individuals or different types of couples that must consider alternative family planning? Do you know the difference between in-vitro fertilization (IVF) and intrauterine insemination (IUI)? For years, my husband and I navigated through the murky waters of infertility and rarely did we come across someone, even in […]

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An Eating Disorder Told Me I’d Rather Be Thin Than Have Kids

Courtesy of Dr. Colleen Reichmann At 14 years old, I weigh myself five, ten, sometimes 15 times a day. Always hoping for some magic number that didn’t exist. The results dictate my mood. Number up? Total devastation for the day. Number down? Cautious pride — but better double check in an hour, just to make sure. The goal is simple: smaller. Smaller at any cost. The pursuit of thinness is gravely important, more important than friends, more important than sports. More important than health. At 19 years […]

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We Are Definitely ‘One And Done’

Courtesy of Jillian Stackhouse-Frechette There are a few things that I remember about my wedding day. There are the obvious ones, such as the dress, the cake, dancing with my husband, etc. But one that especially sticks out is a guest pulling me aside as we were leaving the church and asking me when exactly we were planning on having a family. My husband and I had been married all of five minutes. What this relative did not know, was that I had polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS). […]

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