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I Thought I Had Pre-Baby Jitters, But It Was Pre-Natal Depression

Courtesy of Wendy Wisner You’re not supposed to feel like you’re grieving when you’re pregnant. Your pregnancy is not supposed to make you feel anxious and paranoid. What kind of person wants more than anything to get pregnant — and then, once it happens, they feel nothing but resentment and fear? I was that person. And those were the sorts of thoughts and questions that spread like wildfire through my mind when I found myself pregnant with my second child. I hadn’t experienced anything of the sort […]

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My Advice On Breastfeeding While On The Keto Diet (As An IBCLC)

Scary Mommy, Unsplash, Pixabay and FreeImages The keto diet has been all the rage for a few years now, and that doesn’t seem to be slowing down. If you aren’t familiar with it, the keto diet is basically low-carb dieting to the extreme. It’s a diet based mostly on protein and fats, with very little allowed carbs. It’s not just bread that’s out, though. According to Healthline, you’re pretty much not allowed any fruits besides berries, and all starchy vegetables are no-no’s, including sweet potatoes and beets. […]

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Advice For New Dads, From A Dad Who’s Been There

Scary Mommy and Zach Vessels/Unsplash My wife and I recently invited a younger couple over for dinner. They were both in the mid-20s with a new baby. And yes, I am aware that I just wrote “younger couple” which makes me sounds incredibly old. I’m not all that old, mind you. I’m 37, but I have been married from 15 years, and I have three children ranging from 5 to 12. In that time, I have learned a few things. That’s the funny part of being a […]

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New Moms Might Not Want Visitors, And That’s Okay

Towfiqu Photography/Getty As I inched closer and closer to the finish line of each one of my pregnancies, a not-so-subtle pattern began to form. Those who hadn’t checked up on me during the duration of my pregnancies would inform me they couldn’t wait to “get their hands on my baby” once I delivered… as if once my babies’ birth was announced, that would be enough to warrant an open invitation from my entire neighborhood. Of course, I was grateful my babies were already seemingly loved, but the […]

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My Second C-Section Helped Me Finally Heal From Birth Trauma

I force one eye open, and I feel the fog starting to clear. The clock says it’s 7 a.m. It was 6:28 when my baby was born. The NICU team rushed him out of the room before I ever laid eyes on him. Is he okay? What happened to the last few minutes? These are the questions I want to ask, but trying to speak is a Herculean task. I can move my hands and head, but they feel impossibly heavy. I’m flat on my back, and […]

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I Had HELLP Syndrome And It Nearly Destroyed My Birth Experience

My birth story is not beautiful, warm and fuzzy, or humorous in any way. But I choose to share my story to raise awareness about a rare but oh-so-serious pregnancy complication, and to remind you to not take yourself so seriously. My pregnancy was a dream. I blissfully waddled through eight months of long naps on Saturdays, a husband who let me rest to my heart’s content (although he did refuse to rub my feet once, which he’ll never live down), tons of ice cream, uneventful doctor […]

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We Need To Stop Calling Cesarean Births ‘C-Sections’

“Cesarean babies make for lost souls. Those babies are never actually born so they can never be grounded.” Have I got your attention yet? Have you ever heard such crap? This sentiment was actually shared with a beloved client of mine, one who went on to have a cesarean birth. Can you imagine how she feels when she remembers those words? I want to talk about cesarean birth. More specifically, I want to talk about the language used with cesarean birth. Recently, I’ve found myself a part […]

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All The Sh*t You Hear When You’re Pregnant With Your 4th Kid

Courtesy of Shanisty Ireland People: “Is this your second?”Me: “No, it’s my fourth.”People: “Huh? Ohhhh. Wow. Uh…”Me: “Don’t worry, my condition is not contagious.” Being pregnant with baby #4 has garnered some personal, awkward and downright hysterical questions and comments from “The People.” Here are some examples: Was this one planned? How old are your other children? Do you stay at home with them? What does your husband do? Is this your last?  Wow! College will be fun!  If we currently had three boys or three girls, I’m sure the first […]

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I Didn’t Plan On Being Pregnant And Unmarried, But Here We Are

There are two things that take exactly three and a half minutes to cook: Kraft Easy Mac and a pregnancy test. Being a fairly efficient lady, I figured I could execute both at once; I’d enjoy my tasty cheesy noodles following the assurance that my period was on her way. I don’t want to give away the ending but the test was positive and I found the fully-cooked Easy Mac cup in a tupperware drawer three days later. Shame. Insecurity. Guilt. Embarrassment. These are some emotions that many […]

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The Woman Who Gave Birth To My Daughters Is Not Their Mother

Courtesy of Elizabeth Joyce The woman who gave birth to my twin daughters is a lot of things, but she is not their mother. She is the woman who carried my baby girls in her womb and nurtured them when I could not. She is incredibly generous, kind, thoughtful, caring, and compassionate beyond measure. She is a woman with whom I am intimately bonded through the experience of giving my daughters’ life. She is now a treasured friend. But, she is not my daughters’ mother. Courtesy of […]

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